NO MORE.....!!

Yesterday saw an episode of “Ek Packet Umeed” and was left disturbed...This serial always highlights on current issues…and this time on the occasion of holi it focused on ”group molestation” The girl in this serial was molested by a gang just because she had slapped one of the goons for forcefully playing holi with her.. Seeing that episode I remembered immediately the Gateway of India and the J.W.Marriot incidents. I could never understand what kind of pleasure could anyone derive by demeaning someone...In the serial, her friends decided to stand for her and fight against what happened...How many of us do that in real life??

I still remember vividly …I was returning from my classes one evening with a friend. When a man while passing by squeezed my breast, before I could realize what had happened he crossed the road and ran. I tried running behind him shouting at the crowd to stop him but no one helped. When my friend asked me what happened I was too embarrassed to tell her what had happened. When he turned behind and winked flashing a sleazy smile. I felt so dirty and ashamed of my self. Even though it was a small incident but I felt my privacy was violated. I cried uncontrollably for the whole night. Next day after much prodding I shared the incident with my dear friend she told me ‘Snap out of it ok!!Fine something bad happened with you..so what?? Don’t expect any sympathies from me coz im not going to give any to those who choose to be a victim’She told me its not just me, it is faced by almost every woman at one point of their life..and instead of feeling vulnerable and asking for other’s support one should fight back…

She told me the horrifying truth that she was molested by her uncle since childhood, she didn’t knew what was happening or why he was doing like this but she used to feel dirty and blame herself for that. Her uncle used to threaten her warning her not to open her mouth in front of any one. One day when she couldn’t take it any more, she decided to stand up for herself. She told her parents about her suffering of 11 years and they were shocked to the core. Her dad confronted her uncle and later on it was found that he used to molest his own daughter as well…He was thrown out of the family and even his wife abandoned him but not before my friend slapped him hard and said “NO MORE” She told me for years she tortured herself thinking some how it was her fault...She blamed god for making her so weak and helpless. but the person to be blamed was her uncle and not her for being so sick. It was he who was weak and needed to conduct such cheap act on kids to prove his masculinity to himself...That’s cowardice beyond words... Such incidents can never be forgotten but she is at peace with herself as she stood up and fought her own battle...

That made me change my attitude. I used to think why me… but when I heard what happened with her and how she stood against it...I decided no matter what ill never be a victim again... Very soon I faced another incident where my courage was tested...

I was crossing the road when some one slapped me hard from behind. When I turned around I saw a guy in the rickshaw making obscene gestures at me. My friends said” leave it...he is a creep...” but I knew what to do...I ran behind the rickshaw asking the rickshawalla to stop the vehicle...luckily the rickshaw had to stop at the signal...I came near the rickshaw and started pulling out the guy he was so scared that he was trying to jump out from the other side..I tried pulling him out of the rickshaw slapping him hard twice...the guy pleaded sorry and till then due to the commotion crowd was gathering...sensing trouble the rickshaw driver sped the rickshaw as soon as the signal was green... but not before I made sure the guy wouldn’t try to misbehave with any other girl from now on as I could see tears streaming down his face when the rickshaw fled across me.. At that time an elderly uncle came to me and said” Beta you didn’t have to be so violent... Gals aren’t supposed to behave so in public... Such things happen u can’t do anything about it... Before I could retort back a lady came up to him and said, “Wake up Mr... She just did..!”

If females are considered as weaker sex in the society...we females are also to be blamed for it...We are victimized because we choose to be a victim… Sometimes it is necessary to forget the physical difference created by god and focus on the mental strength and will power gifted by God to do what is right...I am not saying that violence is the solution for all the problem…But suffering in silence is definitely not.. Unless we voice our objection... nothings going to change... Is it easy??No it isn’t.. it requires huge guts and courage...but who said anything in life comes easy...There are men who forget that females are more than sex objects, they are humans too…We might meet those kind of people in our life from time to time. We have the option of being a victim or we can fight back, I chose to do the latter... What would you choose??

If I Let You Go...



A beautiful song...hope u guys will agree on the same.. :)

Day after day..time pass away
and I just can't get you off my mind
nobody knows.. I hide it inside
I keep on searching but I can't find

the courage is to show..To letting you know
I’ve never felt so much love before
and once again I’m thinkin' about...
takin' the easy way out

but if i let you go... i will never know
what my life would be.. holding you close to me
will I ever see.. You smiling back at me
how will I know.. If I let you go

Night after night.. I hear myself say
why can't this feeling just fade away
there's no one like you.. You speak to my heart
it's such a shame.. We’re worlds apart

I’m too shy to ask.. I’m too proud to lose
but sooner or later I’ve gotta choose
and once again I’m thinkin' about
taking the easy way out…

but if I let you go.. I will never know
what my life would be.. holding you close to me
will I ever see.. You smiling back at me
how will I know.. If I let you go..